The only advice column that spins both sides of the truth, todays topic: Advice Column 6, staying happy at work and confronting a friend.
Q: I hate my job. My boss is a bitch and my co-workers are so lazy. I’ve tried everything to make things work, but I just want to quit. I definitely need the money, but I could do without the stress. What can I do to stay motivated and happy at my job?
Side A: There’s so much that you can do to stay motivated and happy at your job! You could play soothing music, like smooth jazz, at your desk to remain calm in stressful situations. You could purchase a stress ball to use, whenever you feel negatively. You could even bring in some of your favorite healthy snacks to eat throughout the day. Sometimes, being hungry at work makes things even more unbearable. Or perhaps, once a month, you could treat yourself to a massage during your lunch break. To figure out some more options, write a list of all the things that motivate you and make you happy, then try to combine the things that you listed into your work life.
Side B: Sometimes, finding a new job is the answer. It’s been said that, if you do what you love, then you’ll never have to work a day in your life. Consider the possibility of finding a job that you love, which can pay you the same, if not more.
Q: My friend is gassed. She thinks that she’s prettier, smarter, and richer than everybody else. The truth is she’s ugly, dumb, and broke. I want to let her know about herself. How should I confront her?
Side A: A non-confrontational and private approach might work best in this situation. Invite her over to your home for dinner and drinks. And when the time is right, tell her how you feel, calmly and respectfully.
Side B: It seems like you’re more interested in going off on her than actually helping her by being honest with her. Granted, yes, she does sound like she needs a dose of reality. But, this doesn’t give you the right to be disrespectful towards her. Two wrongs don’t make a right. If you’re truly her friend, despite her behavior, you’ll be kind with your approach and your words.
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