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Q: I just found out that my man lied about having to work overtime at his office on New Year’s Eve, in order to spend time with another woman. Even worse, I found out that he told her that he loves her. Despite his betrayal, a part of me wants to work it out. I haven’t confronted him about his infidelity because I’m trying to figure out how I should handle this. If you were me, what would you do?

Side A: If I were you, I wouldn’t think about how someone else would handle this situation. Why? Because no one knows your relationship better than you. You have the capability and strength to find your way and overcome in this situation. So, you don’t need any outside interference answering your call of judgment. Your main question should be, “Do I forgive him?” If your answer is, “No,” then you should put an official end to your relationship because it’s bound to fail without forgiveness. If your answer is, “Yes,” then you need to have an open conversation with him. Find out, if he wants to be with this other woman, instead of you. Find out, if he wants to leave this other woman and repair your relationship. His response to these questions will guide you towards taking your next step.

Side B: Cheating is grounds for a break-up, in my book. So, if I were you, then I would leave him. Your man lied to you because he knew that there’s a possibility that he could lose you, if he cheated. Yet, he took that risk, anyway. His deliberate infidelity signifies that he doesn’t value your relationship. Otherwise, he would’ve been home with you watching the ball drop at midnight, instead of dropping his pants at midnight.

Q: Since I can remember, losing weight has been my #1 New Year’s resolution. This year, I want to really commit to this goal and lose about 50 pounds. What’s an easy diet and exercise plan that I can follow?

Side A: The key to losing weight is to burn more calories than you eat. So, you want to eat healthy, balanced meals and stick to a good fitness regime. Eating three meals (breakfast, lunch, and dinner) and working out for 30 minutes at least, each day, is a common recommendation for losing weight. You should speak with your primary care physician about this, too, because he/she may be able to create a food chart and physical training program – specifically for you to help you reach your goal.

Side B: Honey, I’ll have to sit on the bench for this question, because I’m in no position to help you tackle your goal. Although I do like to exercise, I love to eat. So, I definitely can’t recommend a good food and fitness plan to you. But, I wish you the best of luck!

The only advice column that spins both sides of the truth, today’s topic: Advice Column 11 Cheating and weight loss around the New Year!

Side A: If I were you, I wouldn’t think about how someone else would handle this situation. Why? Because no one knows your relationship better than you. You have the capability and strength to find your way and overcome in this situation. So, you don’t need any outside interference answering your call of judgment. Your main question should be, “Do I forgive him?” If your answer is, “No,” then you should put an official end to your relationship because it’s bound to fail without forgiveness. If your answer is, “Yes,” then you need to have an open conversation with him. Find out, if he wants to be with this other woman, instead of you. Find out, if he wants to leave this other woman and repair your relationship. His response to these questions will guide you towards taking your next step.

Side B: Cheating is grounds for a break-up, in my book. So, if I were you, then I would leave him. Your man lied to you because he knew that there’s a possibility that he could lose you, if he cheated. Yet, he took that risk, anyway. His deliberate infidelity signifies that he doesn’t value your relationship. Otherwise, he would’ve been home with you watching the ball drop at midnight, instead of dropping his pants at midnight.

Side A: The key to losing weight is to burn more calories than you eat. So, you want to eat healthy, balanced meals and stick to a good fitness regime. Eating three meals (breakfast, lunch, and dinner) and working out for 30 minutes at least, each day, is a common recommendation for losing weight. You should speak with your primary care physician about this, too, because he/she may be able to create a food chart and physical training program – specifically for you to help you reach your goal.

Side B: Honey, I’ll have to sit on the bench for this question, because I’m in no position to help you tackle your goal. Although I do like to exercise, I love to eat. So, I definitely can’t recommend a good food and fitness plan to you. But, I wish you the best of luck!

– About Ms. Boogie:

Born a pineapple, bred an apple, and now, a peach, Ms. Boogie currently resides in Atlanta, GA. Besides writing, she also has an interest in radio broadcasting. You can find her on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/joncierrienecker and/or follow her on Twitter @jrienecker.

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