Understanding the Layers To Love
The first stage is the ‘in love’ process which is a wonderful ‘honeymoon’ period to the relationship. Senses are heightened and we feel alive. Watch “The Mirror Has Two Faces” for a eye opening insight to the facets of loving. It is a necessary part of the relationship dance if we are to evolve, uncovering the depth at the gift of what love can bring us – which is very rewarding.
The next phase begins the acceptance of the others strengths and weaknesses (as well as our own) as the individual we fell in love with starts coming down from the pedestal we have placed them on. Reality sets in and we see the full encompassing truth of our partner.
The lasting phase is beyond compassionate acceptance where your heart is full beyond measure at the wonderful fluidic movement that comes when the dance starts a rhythmic intuitive connectedness that happens when you are in harmony with your mate and your souls are united in this love. That is the Gold at the End of the Rainbow!
How do we begin peeling away the layers to love?
We all vacillate between being single and wanting a relationship, wanting freedom yet craving closeness & intimacy. Understanding that we want consistency yet liking spontaneous moments helps with our complex and seemingly wavering minds between these two ‘opposite’ desires. Time together yet needing time to be with yourself and your thoughts also seem contradictory, but an essential part of being human. Independence must give way to a shared collaboration of each others heart and mind. Passion must engage BOTH people. We all want a roadmap to a successful encounter that will lead us towards more rewarding relationships.
Know that we all want to be loved accepted for who we are. Sometimes it isn’t easy doing that very thing for ourselves. Giving our self love requires patience, compassion and an ability to forgive ~ how do you give it to your best friend? Well guess what, your best friend is also you!
Love of self emerges from within and acceptance of others comes from an emotional level. Whether briefly or keeping & sustaining relationships, LOVE is at the core of every interaction with everyone you meet.
Giving love sometimes is equally difficult. Knowing when to give space or come close, speak or just listen is a dance, an art form that requires developing a skill; part of which is about paying attention, looking for subtle cues, then checking in with our partner to get confirming feedback.
Now, we may not be able to accomplish this at ALL times, because we have our own needs that sometimes conflict with our partner. Being sensitive to yours as well as theirs is just as important. Trusting that our needs will be met, (sometimes not immediately or in the way we think) is key to a healthy partnership, equally the communication. Listening is a skill and is the key that opens up the door to the larger part of understanding, which when gently applied, not forced, continues to strengthen the foundation of your home/your heart(s).
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