Love and lust are the two most misdiagnosed concepts we confront in our daily lives. This is because most people long for love yet end up intertwined in a heated lust filled liaison generously masking itself as a meaningful relationship. These misinformed decisions are made because oftentimes people easily accept acts of affection and interest as benign actions of pure innocence. The reality is that most gender responses towards you are not love preludes but instead they are lustful grabs at your attractive fruit. Given this reality, it’s important to wait for someone’s true intentions to unfold before you commit your heart, soul and most importantly, your body.
The wait for love is difficult because we are inundated with masses of literature; countless works of art and scores of music about love that it makes you long for it even more. However, if we carefully examine these works of art, we will see that most of them are actually lustful temptations aimed at enticing carnal senses.
At its core, love is mainly a spiritual and mental feeling. It’s a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person. It creates a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep care like a parent to a child, a sister to a brother or kindred bond shared between true friends.
Only after an innocent connection is built between two people who are attracted to one another should they explore sexual relations as a beautiful next step. The key is that the sexual component to their relationship is not a requirement; but a natural progression if the partners’ involved feel inclined to pursue it. True love requires discipline and commitment and is never selfish or jealous. This love is focused on the growth, improvement and comfort of the person who is the object of your love.
On the other hand, lust is an intense sexual desire or appetite for another person. If you have someone that gives you an uncontrolled or illicit yearning to release your sexual cravings on them, you’re motivated by lust. Your lust drives a passionate and overmastering hunger to touch them, taste them and ultimately fuck them. Your lust for the person is about pleasure or delight not chemistry or openness. Your not concerned about their inner most thoughts and real life circumstance. In lust, you’re undisciplined. Your energy is focused on the person who is the object of your desire and they are a utility to be discarded once the purpose of self-satisfaction is fulfilled. They are a tool… and your desire for orgasm is the task at hand. If both participants feel the same way then by all means…enjoy yourselves. However, if one of you mistakes lust filled sexual connections as a tasty element of a loving meaningful relationship, then you are wrong…very wrong and someone will get hurt.
Can I have both? I want love and lust…in my relationship!
As you read this article, you are probably evaluating your relationship to assess the nature of it. It’s possible that you are angered at my description of (love & lust) if you find yourself in a group that does not align with the lie you’ve been living. However, the truth is, you can have it both ways. Love and lust are not like oil and water. They can mix perfectly and they should. The result is an explosive meaningful relationship with deep connections and countless orgasms.
How should I proceed?
Check your relationship and determine what you truly have. Once you accept the true nature of your relationship, only then can you decide which direction you want to pursue. If you determine that what you have is true love, then make him or her the object of your sexual impulses. You and your lover should explore every erotic and restricted area of your mind and vice versa. If that person is truly your soulmate they will respond with equal sexual vigor.
The key is to make sure that–that person deserves the freak that lies within you. Once they’ve proven themselves to be “in it” for the right reasons, then allow them “in it” for all the naughty reasons. A true soulmate will not judge you for your kinky turn-ons nor deny you access to theirs. That’s because true “partners” share with one another without fear of ridicule or judgment.
Together, you can now begin a loving and lust filled journey throughout life.
Happy Travels!
(originally posted in 2012)
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