Social isolation has changed the dynamics of love, and dating has been no exception. While many might think that living in quarantine means putting romances on hiatus, this doesn’t necessarily have to be the case. There are alternatives. One of the safest is to continue meeting prospects and enjoying being single but through virtual platforms.
According to a study carried out in 2019, almost 30% of respondents have ever used a dating app. The main motivations that prompt young people and adults to download these platforms are entertainment, expanding networks, and, finally, making appointments.
But in times of pandemic meeting physically with a person, you do not know for a first date is no longer a viable option. Dating platforms such as Tinder, Bumble, Coffee Meets Bagel and Plenty of Fish enable people to connect and possibly find a partner with similar interests through the virtual world.
1. Start Small
Take time to get to know each other a little before a first virtual encounter. The ideal is to talk to the person beforehand through a chat or messages and have a notion of who they are. Know their likes, interests, a bit of their life history. Something that people value a lot on a first date is getting out of the common questions such as;
- What do you do for a living?
- What are you looking for on this date?
The idea is to come up with entertaining questions like, ‘If you could choose, what would be the first country you would travel to after quarantine?’ That opens up different themes but, in addition, it connects you with the dreams and passions of the other person.
When an instance is generated in which people can show their passions, hobbies, talking about their family or their goals, they generally end up finding a common topic. They manage to understand each other better and they begin to have a deeper dialogue. “With this, you will have common themes and the conversation will flow naturally without falling into the common places that are so boring.
2. Hide Your Personal Information
After looking at thousands of profiles you finally find one that you find interesting and they start communicating. What are you talking about? Do not send him a treatise on your life, your fears, and your passions, as the mystery may be lost. What is better to talk about then? Express interest in their profile and in the things they like or have in common.
The same goes with your personal data: do not reveal where you live or your work address. Always meet him for the first time in a public place. If all goes well, the story of your life can be told later. Online dating apps are vulnerable to scams, phishes, and data breaches, which can affect users in many possible ways. So to be safe online, you can use a VPN service that encrypts your data and protects you from malicious people and sites.
3. Love Can Be Blind
In the hit Netflix reality show Love is blind, six couples got engaged to be married after meeting only through blind dates, that is, without ever seeing each other’s faces. Although each person and each couple have different dynamics, going gradually from blind dates to video calling, generally works. Starting by chat or messages to get to know the person better and then going to calls can be a good idea. The voice is something that until then we only imagined, so listening to the other person and their energy level is also relevant.
The culminating point of the first phase of flirting may be the video call appointment, because even when they have already seen each other in photos, only in this new phase will they be able to meet in real-time. In this step, you will be able to see their reactions, their laugh, and their gaze, basically you will be able to perceive their vibe.
4. Don’t Date Just For The Sake Of It
Before making a date, ask yourself if you are attracted to the other person. Don’t feel any kind of obligation. And don’t be offended if it’s the other person who doesn’t want to see you anymore.
So you were rejected by a stranger on the Internet, what does it matter? There is many virtual fish in the sea, so don’t give up and keep going.
5. Be Honest
Your profile should be a reflection of who you are, not who you think you should be. Pretending that you like something or that your personality is in a certain way, when it is not true, can be counterproductive if you are looking to achieve compatibility with someone.
If you invent that you love football you will have to put up with the guy talking about it for hours, so it is better to opt for sincerity. This also goes for photos. Use a recent image that reflects who you are.
Online dating should be entertaining and a good opportunity to meet new people. Even bad experiences will leave you good lessons, and some anecdotes to remember when you see your friends. Subscribe to our blog for more dating tips.
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