Betrayal stings. It’s a bitter pill to swallow and always comes unexpectedly. The shock of discovering a partner’s infidelity can be devastating. Seeing the person you trust throw everything away in a few minutes can trigger anyone. The signs of cheating might be subtle, but here are ways to detect an unfaithful partner.
Unfaithfulness in a relationship or marriage can be attributed to many reasons. While the reasons for cheating are complex, one thing is sure: it’s never your fault. Like Kash Doll says in “Ice Me Out,” “He says he loves me, but he’s cheating.” Some people simply struggle with loyalty.
Honestly, the pain, heartache and anger are valid reactions. You might even feel disappointed or numb. However, don’t act on those feelings. Take some time off and think about your next actions seriously. This article is to help you spot the signs your partner is cheating on you so you can protect yourself.
These signs aren’t definitive proof, but they warrant further investigation. If you observe these signs, please verify them with evidence. Here are some subtle clues that your partner might be straying:
5 Subtle Signs You’re Being Cheated On: How to Spot a Cheating Partner
1. The Excuse Game
There’s always an excuse. Cheating partners always have an excuse to cover up their tracks, and like Kash Doll says in “For Everybody,” they “…ain’t slick.”
When it becomes a pattern, it eventually leads to mistrust as one person consistently gets tired of these read-made explanations. Excuses become a constant companion and could include statements like “being busy”, “something came up”, or “I’m making it up to you.” This is a significant red flag that your relationship may be involving a third party.
2. Apologies without changing
“You say you’re sorry, you’re sorry / But you’re still not calling me” – Destiny’s Child, “Bills, Bills, Bills.”
If you notice your partner keeps apologizing when you complain about something but doesn’t change, it’s a subtle sign you might want to pick up on. This is especially true if your partner says things like, “you’re too good for me” or “You deserve someone better,” as these are empty apologies stemming from a guilty heart. This suggests that they believe you should find someone else and are reluctant to end the relationship themselves, fearing they will appear to be the one at fault.
3. Distance
Emotional disconnection starts small. It builds with every excuse and constant apology, yet nothing changes, making the distance expand. Once a partner starts getting accustomed to disappointment, it begins to fill a void in the other person.
Your partner may be reluctant to spend time with you because they prefer the company of someone else. Sadly, they are building an emotional connection with someone else, becoming less interested in you, thus leaving your relationship disconnected. Their interest now lies somewhere else.
4. Over-the-Top Affection
Occasionally, a cheating partner may try to overcompensate in an attempt to deflect suspicion. They might shower you with gifts or try to act more loving than usual. They might also change their appearance, claiming it’s to impress you or look special. Try to be observant if your partner is being more affectionate than usual.
While these do not necessarily mean that your partner is cheating, if you notice these signs, confirm it yourself. A relationship can work when both parties are willing to resolve disputes and work together to maintain their connection.
