There have been a lot of talk about dating hiccups and parenting styles circling around social media but has social media been the problem? Parenting & dating styles changed every year, with a new concept of how we should change our mindsets. What use to make some men stand in the rain & want to resolve their issues in their relationships, has now been a matter of both parties being stubborn and waiting for the next person. It seems as though, everyone has turned into pointing the finger at their partner rather than admitting their own faults. Social media has been the spokesperson for relaying their opinion on certain, especially parenting.
People have been debating for many years about the dating world, and expressing the roles that each partner has in the relationship. Over the years, especially since the start of podcasts, people have been expressing their opinion on dating and the hiccups that many people come across when trying to put themselves out there. You have many males explaining that some women aren’t looking for a healthy relationship but more so a person that can pay for their financial needs. Whereas, you have some women defending the assumption and explaining that it isn’t the main priority that they are looking for but the concept of how some men date nowadays isn’t “giving”.
The continuous back and forth of who is right and who is wrong is a never ending cycle which creates for anyone who is in the dating world to have a slight irritation of having to explain themselves. Social media has opened many doors for some healthy conversations as well concerning mental health, traumas, and flaws that should be addressed throughout the dating process but again, the primary focus has been “what does this person want from me” instead of “what can I learn or gain from this person”.
For example, when the “list” of where NOT to take women on a first date came to social media, EVERYONE jumped on it. It honestly put social media in a frenzy. Cheesecake Factory being the main topic of discussion after a viral video of a woman was seen not getting out of the car because her date took her to the Cheesecake Factory and she didn’t find it appropriate for a first date. After the video, the list appeared and their were many women who were in agreeance about some places not being a first date kind of spot. Then of course, the men had to jump on board and hash out all of the women that they shouldn’t take out on a first date. It became yet again, another cycle of a gender war.
But, what if we could go back to when social media wasn’t a factor in our lives? What if we go back to where people actually had to walk up to the person that they found attraction or found an interest in and actually have a conversation? Do you think the dating pool would get better? Lets take social media out of the picture and develop our own opinions on the type of person we are interested in, where we want to go on dates, our interests and just who we see ourselves with for this lifetime. Maybe then, the gender war will come to an end. But then again…life always has a funny way to create more chaos.
Dating isn’t the only topic that social media has been buzzing about though, parenting styles have entered the chat as well. Do you remember back in the day where you would have an opinion about something but learned how to keep your mouth shut because if you didn’t your lips would’ve been on the floor? Yeah, I believe that most of us have been through the tribulations of growing up in a black household where giving an opinion was perceived as talking back. But now, millennials are discovering gentle parenting that embraces their children to express their emotions but also teaching them how to control it as well. Of course, social media wouldn’t be social media if this topic wasn’t debated. You have some millennial parents who agree with the gentle parenting & making sure that their children feel as though they have a voice but then there are some millennial parents who aren’t quite sure letting go of the belt is the right thing to do. Although we want our children to be able to express themselves, there is still a level of respect that expect our children to have with us. But again, can that happen with social media being in the mix?
We all want what is best for our children, our lives but to constantly see & hear the opinions of others we are lost in finding our own. What has social media added to your life? What has social media taken away? Let us hear your opinions and stories regarding dating and parenting in the comments below.
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