I have a vast array of people on my facebook page and still I welcome all ideas and thoughts even though I may not agree with them. One of my male fb friends stated that he no longer likes Black women because “they are weak minded, egotistical, and judgmental”. This isn’t the first time a poc male has voiced his dislike for women of color on my facebook or twitter. Many poc men have said they are jumping ship for lighter pastures. Even actor Brian White has come under fire for his feelings towards Black women. And in the past Actor Wesley Snipes publicly said he wouldn’t date a black woman and as such he is married to an Asian woman.
The media doesn’t do much to contradict the stereotypes that live in the minds of these “anti-Black woman” men. Reality TV paints an African American woman’s reality as being the baby momma or wife in training (but never a real wife) of someone famous who spends more than she makes, always spewing the phrase I KEEP IT REAL, loves to fight at the age of 40 and does all that in an overpriced pair of heels. We barely exist in sitcoms unless we are the token neck rolling “oh hell naw’ girlfriend of the quirky yet loveable white friend.
When did the Black woman become the evil villain in this comic book called life? In the last 3 years we have continued to come under attack. CNN says that 43% of Black women will never walk down an aisle while HIV infections among AA women continue to climb. I have lost count on how many movies are made about the ‘bitter man hating independent Black woman who hides behinds her designer power suits or millions of out of wedlock children.’ When I went to see the movie For Colored Girls I walked out the movie feeling depressed to be a Black woman. Not one character in the movie had a positive situation going on in their life. To make matters worse critics loved to point out that this is “true to the Black woman’s struggle.” Do Black women struggle yes but that is because all humans struggle?
Black women are happy well adjusted beings who aren’t gold diggers, or thirsty for fame. We work, we love, we live like everyone else. I know beautiful ladies of color who are never represented or shown love. So while the world may be on a Black woman character assassination, I’ll step out my door dodging the verbal bullets with my smile, something Black women actually do!
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