Is Marriage a Bigger Commitment Than Having Kids? This Is What Black Twitter Thinks

Ashley Blackwell

If you’re a Twitterholic, then you know that there isn’t a day that goes by that the people of the bird app aren’t having a little tussle. Is marriage a bigger commitment than having kids?

That controversial question seems to live rent-free in everyone’s debate circle–including the one in the replies under a user’s recent tweet about the matter.

“How is marriage too big of a commitment but having kids together isn’t? Y’all wild,” the young woman wrote on the platform.

How is marriage too big of a commitment but having kids together isn’t? Y’all wild.
— Elizabeth (@doitmuvaaa) January 16, 2023

Following her statement, fellow users poured in with their opinions–some combating while others cosigned.

“Well, if that’s the case, you shouldn’t have sex before marriage either because you could just have sex the condom break and boom pregnant,” a man responded.

Another person added in the mentions, “They feel like they can control a child but know a marriage require accountability from the getgo.”

Of course, points of view differ, and ways of thinking are more complex in most, especially with the goal of jumping the broom not being a priority on the newer generation’s list of family aspirations.

Could that be a result of seeing the outcome of those before them who made a (supposed) lifelong commitment that didn’t last past the time that they were born?

A good majority argued that although going half on someone’s life scientifically connects you for life, mentally and emotionally, it doesn’t.

Here’s what they had to say about it…

Is Marriage a Bigger Commitment Than Having Kids?

Well, if that’s the case, you shouldn’t have sex before marriage either because you could just have sex the condom break and boom pregnant
— Zani (@zaniarkom) January 16, 2023

They feel like they can control a child but know a marriage require accountability from the getgo
— Paul (@bdpaultaylor) January 16, 2023

Tbh everyone’s traumatized from they Momma’s never getting picked/getting left, but love the fact that they dads used their mom’s bodies to always have access to someone they couldn’t commit to🤮
— AVI💎 (@TheePrettyPlug) January 16, 2023

We living in a world where sex takes priority over creating legacies and nation building
— 5’8 O-Dogg w/o kids 🆓🎮 (@Ranweazy25) January 16, 2023

This is something I need the girlies to understand – kids aren’t the glue you think they are. 9/10, you’ll be responsible for the majority of the child rearing and if you’re going at it alone, you’re likely to be financially responsible as well.
— cindasmommy (@jayCMkay) January 16, 2023

THANK YOU! When you have a child with someone you are tied to that person FOREVER. It doesn’t matter what they do or what road they go down y’all are forever connected. They actions will forever affect yo child which in turn will affect you.
— woman not female (@Stellaa_Mariss) January 16, 2023

ppl literally frown their faces up at marriage but take having kids with someone they HATE as nothing…
— doja cat’s left pussy lip (@goldensoul_x) January 16, 2023

A lot of y’all just need to stay single and adopt 😂 there are a lot of children out here already
— Honey Sen Pai 🍯 (@Blasian__Tee) January 17, 2023

I have asked so many people this question, and everyone’s answer is nonsense. It makes me think that the person who doesn’t want to get married, doesn’t love their partner enough and isn’t willing to commit to them. I don’t want that for myself.
— Fed Girl Summer (@ShaShaT88) January 16, 2023

People will have kids just to keep that person in their life because they have control issues.
— Chloe (@ScroogeMcduck68) January 16, 2023

Marriage isn’t for everyone. A child born outside of marriage doesn’t make the child or the relationship void. There’s no difference between a couple who is not married and has a child and a couple who gets a divorce after having a child.
— 🙈🙉🙊 (@MelanatedGenius) January 16, 2023

Ppl only care about sex and money now a days and they will deal with whatever comes with it
— ⚖️ Libra Gang ♎️ (@Moreboutn0thing) January 16, 2023

this has always been a hard topic because i feel for decades, religion covered a big reason why ppl felt they had to get married before having children. i understand why, but i feel like for some relationships, if marriage isn’t their way of expressing that much commitment idm.
— yourstruly🦋🪷✨ (@honey1204_) January 16, 2023

It’s not. It’s just an excuse and tbh I’d rather do marriage first than have children. The marriage I can get out of. The children are forever but that’s just my opinion
— Leodapilot (@leodapilot) January 16, 2023

Don’t see myself marrying in this generation but still always wanted to be a mother 🤷🏽‍♀️
— Slim Goodie (@Queenof_Leen) January 16, 2023

I’m married and have two children. One of these relationships I have the choice to walk away from at any point.
— brand new whipworm, just hopped in (@microsama_) January 16, 2023

Differntiation is key: Marriage isn’t about kids. You can parent w/o marriage. Kids need parents, not married parents. Parents are committed to kids not each other. Parents can agree on how to raise kids + divide responsibilities for the kids w/o marrying each other. Etc., etc.
— Ace 🇳🇬🏳️‍🌈 (@TalkAmarachi) January 17, 2023

I see this tweet like 2X a week😂😂😂 but y’all gotta think about the fact that you can’t have an unplanned marriage but it’s super easy to have an unplanned pregnancy. It happens.
— 🌨 (@TheeAprilAries) January 16, 2023

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