Are You Letting Your Fantasies Get In The Way of Relationship Success


Fantasy Or SuccessGentlemen and Ladies too, in your quest for that higher bush and sweeter berry, don’t overlook the fresh low-lying fruit that’s within your reach. We live in a culture where average is not a desired attribute. There is the hunt for that new bombshell, the need and desire to be with someone smarter, prettier and more successful than the girl next door or our best friend’s sister.  We are all familiar with the saying “The grass looks greener on the other side of the fence,” which seems to be a fundamental belief that can surely lead one to a false perception of those we deem familiar.  You know that old saying about a prophet never being realized at home.

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Now don’t think the objective of this article is to get one to settle for a situation or a relationship that you are just not feeling.  Absolutely not!  The goal is to simply bring awareness to assigning more value to what we already have within our grasp, before one tosses up their hands and screams “out with the old, and in with the new”. To often we later realize that all you ever wanted has been within your reach all along.  Here is some advice: nurture those around you before you set out to plant new seeds, or try looking at that half full glass.

To all my single people that are on the quest to find Mr. or Mrs. Right, when looking for your mate keep your options open. Yes you have standards, but don’t get caught up on the exterior of an individual, such as what type of car he drives, her annual salary, that prestigious degree that he holds, or whether he or she made partner in that fortune 500 company. If you enter the dating game with such a narrow mind, you are putting yourself at increased risk of overlooking a potential mate who has all of the qualities that you desire, such as one who may not have that law degree, but is a certified electrician who works hard, puts family first and treats you like the queen that you are.

To all my relationship bound people who are a little curious to test the playing field, let’s take it back to the basics. Ask yourself what made you fall in love in the first place? What is it about this person that made your toes curl? What exactly is the relationship lacking? Fun, Excitement, Growth? Communication is the key to making any relationship work. So before you go picking that shiny apple way up high, make sure you’re not disregarding or undervaluing the treasure within your reach.

In your search, be sure not to let your fantasies get in the way of relationship success.

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