It is not about color, it is about the character. It is not about ‘they’, it is about ‘we’. At the end of the day you form a relationship with the person, not their color. The aforementioned are my beliefs about interracial relationships. Since when did color determine someone’s worth?
A couple of weeks ago, I was caught up in a heated debate over this issue. Let’s call the person I was debating with, Mr.Black Box. Why? Because he happened to be black and closed minded, hence the box. He made a couple of statements that left me blank, frustrated and confused all at the same time. ‘I would not be caught dead kissing a white woman in public, I do care what people think’…*blank*.‘Interracial relationships are difficult, what with the difference in culture, sometimes religion etc.’…*frustrated*. ‘The divorce rate in this country can largely in part be attributed to interracial relationships.’…*confused*.
Mr. Black Box, is not racist at all. He is just closed minded. His upbringing and socialization has a lot to do with his sentiments. Growing up, his mother expressed to him on occasion her desire to live long enough to see her ‘black grandbabies’. Indirectly, she was sending him a message about the kind of woman she expected him to be with or marry. His socialization pool is very limited to only black people with infrequent integration of other cultures. These and other reasons have propagated his skewed vision and reasoning about interracial relationships. However, I still fail to understand how color can make somebody lose interest in somebody they are obviously interested in. What if we were colorless? With no color lines and pasts to talk of, and just simply based our desire to be with somebody based on their personality and looks. A mere fantasy or can it be made into reality. See the person for who they are?
Oftentimes, interracial relationships are put under a microscope, discussed, and dissected for all they are worth. We get into heated debates about the pros and cons of being in one. Inevitably, the past is always carried forward to explain the present day challenges faced by couples, think along the lines of slavery, colonialism and racism. Urrgh! I get it. I get the logic behind the need for these explanations, but why can’t we just let them be. Why can’t we let sleeping dogs lie and be happy for them? Is it human nature to forgive but never forget past deeds?
They say curiosity killed the cat, but they also say it had nine lives. Right? In writing this article and asking so many questions all at once, I am on a quest to find answers. If I could sum up all these questions into one, it would be ‘What’s the big deal?’ I strongly believe that if your breathing pattern is not affected by two races coming together in love and happiness, then you have no business meddling in theirs. However, should your breathing pattern become inconsistent and require medical attention, then it is time for an interracial relationship evaluation! Lol!
Written by AfroLocks